(I’ll admit that title does sound a bit strange – are there thirty-one different ways to hug?! If you’re not sure what I’m on about, read the introductory post here. :)
Firstly, a big thank-you to all who joined the challenge! It’s
exciting to think of all the lives that will be touched as we each share some
hugs. It’s also not too late to be a part of it! If you feel thirty-one hugs are
not manageable, why not set yourself a smaller goal?
Anyway, here are some ideas which I hope will help and
inspire you as you share appreciation this October.
Hug Suggestions
Remember, a hug is a way to show appreciation, thankfulness,
or support, so the options for conveying that message are endless:
Words – a few words of appreciation in person, a simple thank-you or I’m thinking of/praying for you, an email, a letter, a card, a text
message, or a phone call.
Actions – a literal hug, some extra time with the other person
(catching up, playing a game, shopping, working on a project, etc.), surprise
housework or some other task, a gift.
Hug Recipient Ideas
Is there anyone who couldn’t benefit from an act of appreciation?!
Family – parents, siblings, grandparents, and other
relatives – aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.
Associates – friends, workmates, people at church or other
groups, teachers, bosses/supervisors, mentors, or anyone we spend time with.
People we admire – authors, musicians, artists, bloggers, athletes
– anyone.
Strangers – shop assistants, cashiers, nuisance callers, people
on the bus/train/street, or contacts through Postcrossing.
Challenge Tips and Suggestions
Write a list of people you want to give a hug to, or hug
ideas you want to do, so you can think ahead, plan, and avoid getting to the
end of the day and wondering who to give a hug to.
Be genuine – say what you mean, and mean what you say. Do
what you mean, and mean what you do. Make each hug personal and tailored to the
individual, rather than the copy + paste style – they’ll appreciate it when
they realise the effort is especially for them.
Be specific – for example, instead of just telling someone
you appreciate them, tell them why you appreciate them. Is it because they’re
thoughtful and encouraging, happy and smiling, or their skills inspire you, or they
encourage you in your spiritual walk? (Bonnie recently wrote a post that has
more suggestions on how to give compliments here.)
Get outside your comfort zone – we’ve all got those things
we’ve comfortable doing, and maybe it’s easy for you to appreciate your friends
or family. But I think comfort zones were made to be challenged, so take the
opportunity to stretch yourself. Maybe you’ve never told someone how much you
appreciate them before, or how much they mean to you. Maybe you find it easier
not to talk on the phone (and I’m talking to myself here!). Maybe you’d rather
not join your siblings on their adventures, or visit your relative in a nursing
home, or do the ironing. But this challenge isn’t about us – it’s about others.
So I want to encourage to not let your comfort zone hold you back from showing
appreciation or support for someone else.
Do it from your heart – this is related to being genuine,
but it will show whether you’re doing something out of obligation, or because
you mean it. Don’t worry if you can’t craft a perfect gift or thank-you
message. If you’re doing/saying/writing from the heart it will mean so much
anyway. As Hannah said, “When you put
your heart into something, it comes to life.” (Her whole post on that topic is very good, by the way.)
Be realistic – this isn’t about wearing yourself out, and
becoming exhausted because of the extra ‘tasks’ on your to-do list. Keep it
simple; only do what you can manage. Don’t feel pressured to write a five
hundred word email, or buy a gift, or take a day off to give to a friend. If
you need to take a break from the challenge, do. If you’re running out of
people to give a hug, repeat – your mum won’t mind an extra hug. Challenges are
about finding a balance between pushing yourself, and yet setting achievable goals.
Be creative – this post is only ideas. Brainstorm your own
list of people to share hugs with, ways to show support and appreciation, etc.
The options are limitless – find a Bible verse relevant to their situation,
write a poem, give them some cake (or whatever their favourite food is). Get
them a plant, make their bed, or say thank-you.
Tell them their hair looks nice, tell them they inspire you, and tell them God
used them to bless you.
I hope that was remotely helpful (and not too repetitive), and I hope you all have a fabulous October, and are blessed by giving 31 hugs. Thanks
again for your support in this challenge already – each of your comments was
like a hug. :) And I’m eager for you to add your thoughts! What are your tips
for monthly challenges? Do you have suggestions for hug recipients? What are
some of your hug ideas?
This is beautiful! Its late but I will read more in detail and comment more in the morning but know we are reading the words you type!
ReplyDeleteThanks Vanessa! You're so thoughtful. :)
DeleteBeautiful, beautiful, beautiful. I'm super excited to do this and it's going on my calendar along with a list of what I'm doing (and yes, I use an actual calendar-not my cellphone ;).
ReplyDeleteKeep being awesome Jessica!
Hugs,
Kara
Praise God! Thanks for your sweet comment, Kara. :) I'm so excited that you're excited about this. Sending a return hug!
DeleteThis post was super helpful! The ideas of hugs to give was fantastic. (And I'm so honoured you linked to my post - thank you! <3 ) I'm definitely going to be giving more hugs during October!
ReplyDeleteAs Jesus said, it is more blessed to give than receive. I have a theory that you, Jessica, are going to be massively blessed in your quest to give 31 hugs. :)
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I'm glad, and thank-you! How are you going with the challenge so far?
DeleteAnd thanks so much for that encouragement - it has already been a blessing just in these first few days. xx
I'm so excited to take part in this!
ReplyDeleteYay! Your enthusiasm is encouraging, Grace. I hope you're enjoying the challenge so far! :)
DeleteI still think this is such a nice idea... :) it makes me happy to read "31 hugs" haha..
ReplyDeleteYour blogging and writing in general has improved so much over the years, and you always make things interesting. You do inspire people, you should know that. :)
I hope your Sabbath is extra special today on this first day of October 2016.. The last quarter of the year! Let's hope it's the best quarter yet.
Hugs..!
Thanks for your comment, Niv! Seriously, it was like a huge encouraging hug. :) Especially your thoughts about this blog - that means a lot, because you've seen it all.. so yes, thank-you. :)
DeleteAnd yes, it's scary to be facing the last quarter of the year, but like you said - it could be the best quarter yet, for all we know. :) Sending hugs back! xx
I enjoyed this post, it was very inspiring! I'm SO excited about my 31 days of hugs :) Thank you so much for this lovely idea!
ReplyDeleteLorraine // Laurel Crowned
Praise God! It's so encouraging to see your enthusiasm too! I hope you have a great month of hugs. xx
DeleteI am so looking forward to this! It's actually something I've been thinking about and trying to do recently (specifically, letting certain friends know I'm praying for them, sending verses, just being there...). Assuming I can remember and find time, I especially want to use this month to thank some of my favorite artists and authors... who deserve way more thanks than they probably get! Thanks again for the wonderful idea.
ReplyDeleteThat's great - I'm sure your friends and favourite artists and authors will really appreciate it. And as Bonnie said above - you'll no doubt receive a blessing as well! That's the most amazing thing about sharing encouragement and appreciation, God always blesses in return. Thanks for commenting, and I hope you've enjoyed the first few days of the challenge so far! :)
DeleteThank you so much for these ideas, they're incredibly helpful! I'm sure I'll be be coming back to this post throughout October for encouragement :)
ReplyDelete-Mary
Oh, thank-you for commenting, and joining in! I hope your October of hugs is going well. :)
DeleteThis is such an amazing idea, Jessica! I'm not sure if I read your other post, so I'll have to go read it now, but this whole concept is really sweet. This post was so inspiring <3 Can't wait to join in!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your sweet and encouraging comment, Autumn! I'm excited you want to be a part of this! :)
DeleteGreat ideas, Jessica. =) I have enjoyed putting the "hug challenge" into practice around my home - trying to be more helpful, encouraging, and loving. =) I don't want to make this a "requirement" for October...I want it to be me. I want to be consistent at this all the time.
ReplyDeleteMay I ask what PostCrossing is? Do you recommend it? It looks like a great way to share the Gospel with people around the globe. =)
//Hosanna
That's encouraging to hear you have begun putting hugs into practice! And I really like how you said you want it to be who you are, not just a task. That's powerful. I want this challenge to be the beginning of a new lifestyle for me too.. Thanks for sharing - it's changed the way I'm thinking about 31 hugs.
DeleteYes, I do recommend PostCrossing! It is a good tool for sharing God's hope and love, although you're not meant to preach or proselytize, respecting other people's beliefs, etc. But I try to share subtler messages, and use it to encourage people that they are valued, and priceless, and loved. It's also fun to receive postcards from people in other countries and learn what their life is like. Let me know if you try it at some stage!
Hmm...PostCrossing sounds really cool. =) Thank you for letting me know about it. I'll have to check it out! =) It sounds like a great way to give out hugs. ;)
DeleteYou're welcome! I hope you find it a blessing if you try it. :)
DeleteLove this! It should be a yearly thing :D!
ReplyDeleteOh, thanks! I do plan to make it a yearly thing, actually. Hopefully you'll be hearing about it again come October this year! :)
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