There’s been a lot of talk about pairs lately; one of my friends is getting married. So, I have to sort out my feelings. I went through a time, several years ago, when I was rather romantic, and enjoyed dreaming about weddings and Mr Right. I read books on the topic, I looked up articles on the internet, and I thought and wrote about it. But honestly, that’s passed. I don’t spend much time on it anymore, and I tire of reading and talking about boy-girl relationships.
I have to wonder: do we spend too much focus and attention on this – talking about boys, or boy-girl relationships, or weddings, or finding the right one? Of course, everyone’s interests are different, and don’t get me wrong – I think it is important to have definite standards and opinions regarding appropriateness between boys and girls, what to look for in a husband, etc. But it’s easy to let it become our focus. There is more to life.
You know that verse that talks about an unmarried women caring for the things of the Lord? It’s 1 Corinthians 7:34: “…The unmarried women careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.” We quote that, but do we actually do it? Do we, as unmarried women, actually care about the things of the Lord as much as a married women cares for her husband? Think about how much time, and thought, a wife gives her husband. My friend is not even married yet, and she still gives her fiancé many hours of her time in communication, not to mention thought. Can we say we give God that much time? Are we constantly thinking about Him, and talking to Him, and spending our time planning a lifetime together?
There are many different seasons in life. I’m not discrediting the in-a-relationship, or married season. I think it’s amazing how two entirely different people can come together and be so perfectly suited to each other, and go on to spend the rest of their lives together. It’s just not the stage I’m in at the moment. But that verse has got me thinking: I am in a stage, I am in a relationship. And when I stop to consider it, it’s even more amazing, more incredible, and more deserving of my thought and attention. I should be devoting all my time and energies in caring for the things of the Lord, that I may be holy both in body and in spirit.
And that’s what I'm thinking about pairs. At least for now – I hate to be so definite, because absolute statements come back around. Now, I do want to hear: what do you think of pairs?